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Fun Fridays During the era of Covid19

We are now in the second week of August and this spring and summer have been anything but normal. Most of us have had our typical spring and summer outings and gatherings cancelled or heavily modified. In spite of all of what my husband and I CAN’T do, we decided to create fun activities and memory makers what we CAN do. Hence “Fun Fridays”. It gives us something to look forward to and to remember back on.

We have some beautiful trails within 18 minutes of our home so some Friday mornings, we load the bikes up early and do a 20-mile ride through the farmlands and woods. We are typically done by 10 am. It’s great exercise, gets us back to nature and we enjoy pointing things out to each other along the way. This past Friday, we changed it up. We worked in the morning and then headed out to the lake with a picnic for the afternoon. We had a great walk and got lots of vitamin D. We also visited a popular waterfront resort town just to stroll, look at the boats and take in a beautiful day as we picnicked on the shoreline park grounds. Since we were outside and well distanced from others, mask wearing was minimal, and since we took our own picnic and chairs, we did not have to wait in any restaurant lines or wonder if the tables were properly sanitized. We spent an hour and a half just watching the boats and people go by as we ate and chatted. We could not have gotten a restaurant table with a better view. We watched other couples/families and small groups similarly enjoying the afternoon in the park with picnics, dogs, books and musical instruments. In this situation, it was easy to feel blessed vs. disappointed about what wasn’t happening. Life is much too precious to take for granted.

It’s understandable to be disappointed and anxious during this chaotic and unsettling time of Covid19, but I encourage you to step beyond that and find the good and create the memorable. Each day is a new story that you make up as you go.

You may not have Fridays available to ‘play’ but perhaps you can create a fun cooking night as a couple/family or Zoom a dinner party to get caught up with out of town friends. Do you have any orchards within an hour drive that you can start a new tradition of going to pick your own berries? Are you able to volunteer to help others with shopping, delivering meals, yardwork etc.? Are there any old-fashioned board games or puzzles you can work on together? Are there any local activities that you can rediscover? Can you take an outdoor yoga class or stream yoga lessons on your tablet? You may not have a full day for a mental/physical get away, but you can look for blocks of time on a consistent basis to create meaningful experiences, destress and connect with yourself, family, friends and community.

It’s up to you to create your own atmosphere to thrive no matter what else is going on in the world. This year we have all been faced with unintended interruption and loss. Most of our economies (local to global) were placed in an “induced coma” to try to slow the spread of Covid19. Though we may have little control over other’s actions or state policies, we can choose our attitude and next steps.

Embrace the opportunity or decry the unfairness of life. Being miserable robs you of the moment and valuable time that you can never get back. Instead, use this as a valuable pause to reevaluate your lifestyle, values, spends, priorities, career, the place you live. I believe, especially in the USA, that we have been afforded the opportunity to recalibrate our lives to reflect true values and focus on what is important vs. being overwhelmed, busy and distracted all the time. 2020 still has the opportunity to be a blessing if you can embrace it and streamline your lifestyle so it reflects your true values and priorities. If you reflect, and are intentional with your thoughts and actions, I believe, you will find that you are actively creating a resilient type of lasting freedom.

Hospice and organizing: Sorting Clothes. My personal experience

Preparing for death of a loved one is difficult, but for me, starting the process prior to dad’s death was key to staying empowered over my emotions of grief and being able to do the things I needed to do as his surviving daughter, trustee and executor. My advice? Start early, give yourself permission and get help. Everybody’s experience and family dynamics are different so use and share as appropriate for your situation.

Clothes: Dad had clothes he was never going to wear again: out of style, grungy, ill fitting, belts, dress shirts, underwear, heavy coats, clothes not appropriate for the season, shoes (he only wore slippers even to the doctor) etc. I worked with his trusted and longtime house keeper to keep my energy and emotions up. I chose some practical and emotional touchstone clothing items to keep for the family and put them lovingly in the drawers. I had his housekeeper check all pockets in the other clothes and bag everything for charity. I also had her take the items in her car and provide me the charity receipts for my files. Note: The clothing items we worked with were not located in the room dad was sleeping in so it was not disruptive.

Because this was done when dad was still alive and I used assistance, my emotions were in the right place to do the work: Dad simply did not need these items anymore and they needed to go to people who could use them now.

On reflection, this was one of the best emotionally freeing gifts I gave myself and family. You may wish to chat with family members about how they feel about preparing for the death of your loved one. If your loved one has already passed, consider bringing in trusted or hired assistance to lessen your emotional turmoil of this task. Also, it you do not have a trusted, non-emotional assistant, connect with me, I’m here to support. What is your experience?

It’s Skinny Down Your Photos Day!

With many people at home looking for projects to get done, don’t forget to review your electronic and paper photos. Most people these days have 1000’s of photos on their phones, tablets and computers. This is a great time to shrink those numbers, revisit some of the great memories and share some of your best photos to enrich other people’s day. Continue reading “It’s Skinny Down Your Photos Day!”